Self-confidence plays a key role in our lives, directly influencing the way we face its realities. Having confidence or faith in our abilities to tackle just about anything that life throws at us helps tide over even the most difficult or challenging times in a suitable and sensible manner.
Not all of us are self-confident by nature and even the most confident of us may feel a little shaken when we are faced with a particular type of challenge that we’ve never addressed earlier. The good news here is that self-confidence is quality that can be acquired or nurtured over time.
For instance, getting to know more about a given situation/challenge, and the possible ways to resolve it can boost your confidence levels. Similarly working with things, events, situations that you are already familiar with also influences your confidence levels. Simply put, confidence tends to increase with knowledge and experience.
Psychotherapy is not the only solution to boost self-confidence, but is a powerful tool that is often used to empower people to take control of their emotional states, become successful in their endeavors and learn to trust their abilities and skills to think and act in a timely fashion.
Let’s go through a few common Psychotherapy approaches that help improve self-confidence levels.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is particularly helpful to treat confidence issues that arise because of the way in which a person interprets or perceives a particular situation/ event, or even the way they perceive themselves. Emotional states such as low self-esteem, anxiety, lack of motivation or aspiration, lack of positive examples and other such conditions may trigger a lack of confidence when faced with any situation, trivial or complex.
Working with a trustworthy and reputed psychotherapist can make a great difference as it helps
- Connect with the person on an emotional level to understand their fears and insecurities
- Identify the reasons that affect their confidence levels
- Assess how they approach or interpret a situation and react to it
- Remedy the problem in a systematic manner
Very often you may tend to feel ignored or hurt at different times in life based on the behavior of your loved ones / friends or even acquaintances. How you choose to recognize that situation will definitely influence your actions and behavior.
Self-confidence too is no different. Your confidence levels are likely to dip when you see a small group of people smiling at you and you think they’re ridiculing you. You are likely to get self-conscious, agitated or even angry, losing your focus on the job at hand, eventually land up making a mistake.
When not addressed in a timely manner, this chain of events is likely to repeat, leading to a series of failed tasks, seriously affecting your self-confidence and esteem so that you no longer trust yourself to do a good job.
CBT has proven to be an effective way to teach or train people to curb negative interpretations, tone down impulsive/harmful thoughts and reactions and in fact develop positive attitude and behavior that can improve any given condition / situation.
Limited Exposure ToChallenges
The best way to excel at a task or gain mastery is just relentless practice. Unless you make an attempt to face a situation, try out a new task you may not have a clear idea of your capabilities.
Therapists believe that repeated limited exposures to a situation or task that bothers or challenges an individual can help them overcome their fear and hesitancy and also encourage them to come up with an action plan to tackle such events.
For instance, you must first teach an aspiring swimmer to first float on water before teaching him or her to swim. If they are not confident or comfortable enough to step into the water, you just need to lend a helping hand. However, pushing anovice swimmer into deep waters can prove fatal as the person may never feel comfortable about getting into the pool again. However teaching him or her to first float or swim in shallow waters not only makes the learning more appealing but also instills the confidence and skills needed to negotiate the vast /deep expanses of water later on.
This is exactly how an experienced therapist helps you overcome confidence issues. They first get to know your concerns and guide you on how best you can work your way out of them.
In fact they put you through a series of challenges that become increasingly difficult or complex until your main concern is remedied. Simply put – wade into the waters, float, swim freestyle, graduate from the shallow to the deep pool, master different styles of swimming and eventually participate and win competitions.
Accepting Realities and Staying Committed
Accepting reality is usually the first step before attempting to resolve a problem or improve a given situation. Taking notice of the issue and acknowledging it allows you to now clearly chart out a suitable solution and stick to it till the problem is successfully addressed.
This approach teaches you to come to terms with life’s realities and take them in your stride. It is a fact that not all unpleasant events, thoughts or memories can be overcome. You must simply learn to ignore them, live with them and get on with life inspite of them.
If anxiety, anger, negativity, discomfort or depression interferes with your levels of self-confidence, your therapist can help you shift your focus from these detrimental emotions and calm yourself so that you feel empowered to face life with renewed enthusiasm and commitment.
Psychotherapy helps address an array of mental and emotional problems that influence the daily lives of people. While you can remedy most minor issues by simply reassuring or talking to yourself, being lively and active, resorting to professional therapy may be required for persistent issues that take a toll on your personal /social /professional life.
By the way, learning to live in and enjoy the present moment too can take your mind off all unwanted stress and negativity!